How To Do EFT/Tapping: An Introductory Training.
What is EFT and why add it to SuccessWorld and RightMind Programs Audio. As introduced in Newsletter…..
What is “EFT” or “tapping?” It is a both a self-help and therapeutic treatment approach that makes use of subconscious/ unconscious brain and body mechanisms. It is a technique that is being used to treat severe PTSD from military experiences and other traumatic events such as mass shootings, rape, violent encounters, auto accidents, significant losses, and disappointments, and all the way to long-ago child abuse, sexual abuse, childhood wounds and childhood hurts. It is being used to help people deal with serious physical illness, chronic and acute, as well as pain management, phobia, stress and anxiety, depression and sadness, and other psychological issues. (CLICK AND Read more here… about EFT, if you didn’t read it in the Newsletter…)
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SW/RM EFT tapping Instructions/Recipe:
On this web page I will give you the basic and most simple recipes for the EFT/Tapping process. At the EFT/Tapping resources below I will include a reference list of good web sites with EFT information as well as a number of good books and good video on EFT/Tapping. One of the surprises you may have is that generally the Tapping practitioners are very generous with both information and their time. There are lots of free articles, audios and DVDs and instruction manuals.
Like many skills, it is somewhat easy to jump in and get started and reach some level of ability rather quickly. However, to get effective and good, it takes more work. I’m assuming you are going to just be using the guides I give you to add a nice powerful tool to your tool chest. I am certainly not preparing you for complex and difficult work. This is a very beginners level training and there are many organized and more extensive training programs out there if you want to pursue it. This is certainly NOT intended to be training for the purpose of “treating” other people or even treatment of yourself. It’s not “treatment,” which has legal requirements. It is a great self-help tool and a tool that can sometimes be used by civilians to help friends, family, colleagues, where a professional is not needed. Use it mostly just for yourself. EFT/Tapping is famous for getting quick and large positive results which are surprising, especially where progress had been little or nothing in the past. Its great for things that got STUCK!
I am going to give you the basics patterns and theories that you can safely add to our SW/RM self-help programs without requiring extensive training and practice. I certainly do encourage you to read and listen to audios and videos on EFT/tapping, as well as even take some trainings which are available both for professional counselors as well as for personal use.
Be very cautious about using these approaches on other people without further training and background. There are professional EFT practitioners in your area you can find online who are licensed counselors who can help friends, family, colleagues and even you. But this is still a great self-help tool we can all use.
Here is the basic framework of EFT/Tapping with phrases. If you are skipping the phrases while tapping during the SuccessWorld or RightMind audio programs, you can move ahead to Step 3. However, even if you are skipping the phrases while you tap, it can be helpful to do Step 1 and the Setup Phrases in Step 2.
The Recipe/Formula steps for EFT are:
1)Select a problem area.
1b) (Rate the issue 0-10)
2) Set-Up Phrase (3 times) while tapping on the Karate Chop (KC) or Sore Spot (SS)
3a) Tapping Sequence WITHOUT reminders.
3b) Tapping Sequence WITH reminders.
4) Rate the issue again 0-10
1) Select a problem area.
When using with SW/RM programs the problem area will most often be related to the areas that the RM/SW program are addressing.
Using the examples I’ll work with later: The SuccessWorld Relieve Stress & Anxiety and the RightMind Weight Loss & Fitness programs, the problems will either be the general global problem areas of the two topics, but with specific examples.
Movie Method—Story Telling Method to Present Issue You are Working On
To target the area you are working on it can be helpful to break the area down into a short little story or else a movie that captures the issue you are dealing with. You are going to assess your reactions to either the story or the movie about the issues. You’ll apply your ratings to either the movie or the story. And when we say short, we’re talking NO MORE THAN A TWO MINUTE STORY OR MOVIE.
1b) Rate the intensity..
It is typical in EFT/tapping to rate how intense the problem feels at this exact second on a scale of 0-10…. 10 being the most awful it could ever be and 0 being total absence of problem existing. The rating is not a prediction of future sensation, but applies to the sensed rating of the issue right now… and then at the end of the processes. You are basically applying the rating to your Two Minute Video or Two Minute Story. You may decide to skip the rating process while using the audio programs or you may decide to use it. You could check ratings before the audio program and wait till after the audio session. Some people even stop the audio, check their rating….and then turn it back on and proceed. It is good to use the before-and-after rating in normal circumstance, when not using the audio.
2) Set-Up Phrase
This step is made up of a phrase you say out loud, or silently to yourself, three times (3X)… while tapping on the KC (karate chop) spot on one of your hands with two or three fingers of the other hand. The structure of the set-up is surprisingly unusual to most people. It is an “affirmation” of the problem you have been having. We usually think of affirmations as being positive statements about where we want to get to, rather than problem statements. This statement will put the problem situation or state into an unusual framework of self-acceptance. It will be combined with the first tapping that you do with your fingers on just one spot on your hand, the karate chop (kc) spot, or one point on your chest.
This set-up sequence is designed to deal with “Psychological Reversal.” Psychological reversal is when our systems are reversed such that efforts or desires to remove a problem instead increase it or cement it even more into place. Long-standing problems often involve this reversal process that adds to our remaining stuck. The set-up process of these unique phrases, combined with the KC spot tapping, seems to align your system for letting go of stuck positions. Combining something that we consciously see as negative, with an appraisal that we sense is positive, seems to create a state in the human energy fields that is conducive to changing and releasing stuck situations. It creates new possibilities.
The EFT Tapping Basic Recipe set-up phrase:..
“Even though (this problem situation/example, emotional reaction, failure etc.________ __________________________________) ………. I deeply and completely accept myself.”
For people who are comfortable with it, the original recommended basic recipe set phrase was more commonly, “I deeply love and accept myself.” You can adjust this phrase so that it fits you, even though it should always feel slightly impossible to achieve totally.
Children sometimes use a phrase like…. “Even though I can’t remember to pick up my toys…..I’m really cool…” “I’m great.” “I’m all ok.” “I’m doing good…”
Part of the “magic” of these set-up phrases is creating this energy of paradox and contradiction and putting words to it, while doing the tapping on one of the two points (KC or SS). It is lining things up for change in the right direction almost by clarifying what is typically considered the wrong direction.
When experimenting with this strange process you can feel its strength when you pair something awful with the positive acceptance of oneself.
Part of the reason is that our system is totally unfamiliar with the pairing of something negative with something positive. So new options become available and old options can release.
Notice the feelings and sensations that come up with the following set-up phrases AS YOU TAP ALONG ON THE KC POINT OR SS: “Even though I am hateful towards others, I deeply and completely accept myself.”
Tap while saying:”Even though I have deep rage inside myself, I deeply and completely accept myself.”
Tap while saying:”Even though I have violence and rage inside myself, I fully and completely accept myself”
Tap while saying:“Even though part of me hopes and tries to fail, I deeply and completely accept myself.”
Tapping on issues that apply to other people more than they apply to you seems to be powerfully helpful. For example, tapping along with somebody who is dealing with kidney failure seems to help people who seemingly have no kidney issues. Sooooooooo…. I encourage you to tap along on any and all issues that anybody is dealing with. You’ll benefit also. This has been verified in 20 years of trainings and use by clinicians and civilians.
3) Tapping Sequence with or without reminders..
The traditional EFT basic process involves tapping one at a time on each of 9 acupuncture/ acupressure points on your body while saying a brief reminder phrase.
What order of tapping points? Any order is fine. Most people start with the top of the head, go down through the body, and end with the top of the head. They work from the top to the bottom. This is just so that all of the spots get tapped. It really is optional what the order is. Any order is fine. Just so you usually get all the points.
Descriptions of Tapping Points…..
Karate Chop (KC)…..
Fleshy part on the middle of the bottom of the hand away from the thumb. Used for the Set-Up and Reversal.
Sore Spot (SS)….
on chest are alternate Set Up and Reversal points. The two are lymphatic congestion points. They are about 2-3 inches down from the notch of your collar bone and over 2-3 inches over to either side on your chest. Literally feel around while applying some pressure and you will find an area that is actually somewhat tender when you push. The tenderness my actually disappear after using the spot for a while, but it is still an active point. Use whichever side is comfortable. Its an alternative for set-up when you can’t get two hands free to use the KC point.
Top of the Head (TH)….
Tap on the crown of the head, the very top, with the flat of three or four fingers.
Inside corners of Eye Brows (EB) ….
just above and to either side of the nose.
Side of the Eyes (CE) ….
on the bone to the side of the corner of each eye.
Under the eye (UE) ….
on the bone under each eye about an inch below the pupil.
Under the Nose (UN) ….
at the crease at the bottom of the nose and the top of the upper lip.
Chin (CH) ….
at the crease halfway between the point of your chin and your lower lip.
Collar Bones (CB) ….
not actually on the collar bones, but right on the edge, below it. Put a finger in the notch, where about a man’s tie would be… go down one inch…. then go to the side 1 to 2 inches and you find a little dent. If you put your index fingers on the collar bone then the middle or third finger will easily be on the CB point. Many people prefer to put the entire palm of their hand just below the notch at tap with their whole hand getting both points at once.
Under the Arms (UA) ….
They are about 4 inches below the armpit. This would be even with the nipples of a man or the bra strap for a woman
Top of the Head and a Deep Slow Breathe (THB) ….
3a) Tapping Sequence Without Reminders using SW/RM Audio..
Just tap through the tapping points during the SW/RM audio program without any words or phrases said or thought, other than the main issue you are tapping for. (for example desserts… or anxiety at work) Or you can even tap and have no issue specifically, other than increasing your results from the SW/RM program you are playing. I suggest trying the taping sequence three times. Try to do at least one. Use more as you like or find helpful. It can be randomly placed or it could be put in on an issue that is being talked about during the hypnosis. Some people tap slowly throughout the program, others tap a while, stop a while tap a while, stop a while, and so on… EXPERIMENT
It will be easier to tell what works, the more specific of feelings, emotions, behaviors, issues, times and places you are working on each session. Even if you aren’t using any reminder phrases, but are still using set-up phrases applied to the Movie/Story.
3b) Tapping Sequence With Reminders using SW/RM Audio..
Traditional EFT goes through the nine tapping spots, giving a very short reminder phrase of the issue you are dealing with at each spot. It is very short and concise, a couple of words or a phrase. It can vary slightly from point to point.
For example, if you were working on reducing your eating of sugary desserts, the Set-Phrases and Nine steps could be like this:
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If you are already listening to the audio, just ignore these other audio boxes…
Set-Up Phrases for reducing number and amount of sugary desserts a person typically eats: Karate Chop tapping spot
“Even though I eat sugary desserts every day, I deeply and completely accept myself.”
“Even though I Can’t seem to stop myself from eating sugary desserts, I deeply and completely accept myself.”
“Even though I have been eating way more sugary desserts than is healthy, I deeply and completely love and accept myself.”
Top of the head. “eating lots of sweet desserts.
Inside of Eyebrow: “too much dessert”
Side of the eye: “too much sugar”
Under the eye: “too many sugary desserts”
Under the nose: “eating dessert too often”
Chin; “always wanting dessert”
Collarbone; “dessert habit”
Under the arm; “can’t say no to sweet desserts”
Top of the Head: “dessert too often” Deep Breathe
2nd tapping sequence
Top of the head; “eating sweet desserts every day last week.”
Inside of Eyebrow: “loved my desserts”
Side of the eye: “no matter how large my meal was.”
Under the Eye: “addicted to my sugar.”
Under the nose: “way too much sugar last week”
Chin; “never skipped dessert”
Collarbone; “had to have dessert”
Under the arm; “got stuck on desserts”
Top of the Head: “sugar for dessert” Deep Breathe
Now, you try it with me. Reducing Sugary desserts. Follow along and say out loud after I say the statement. I’ll repeat it softly as you also say it.
As another example, if you were working on reducing anxiety and tension at work,especially around the boss, the Set-Up Phrases and Nine steps could be like this:
Try it with me.
Set-Up Phrases for Reducing Anxiety and Tension at work that involves the boss:
“Even though I am anxious and nervous around the boss at work, I deeply and completely accept myself.”
“Even though I am tense and uptight around the boss at work, I deeply and completely accept myself.”
“Even though I feel afraid and uptight around the boss at work, I deeply and completely love and accept myself.”
Top of the head. “Anxious and Afraid at work”.
Eyebrow: “Tension of 7 at work.”
Side of the eye: “Anxious around the boss”
Under the eye: “Afraid in my gut.”
Under the nose: “Body up tight at work”
Chin; “Stomach in knots”
Collarbone; “I Don’t feel safe at work.”
Under the arm; “Uptight at work”
Top of the Head: “Tense at work” Deep Breathe.
2nd tapping sequence
Top of the head. “Too much tension at work”.
Eyebrow: “Anxiety of 7 at work.”
Side of the eye: “Anxious about my boss”
Under the eye: “My stomach churns.”
Under the nose: “Body and mind tight at work”
Chin; “Stomach in knots”
Collarbone; “I feel in danger.”
Under the arm; “Fearful at work”
Top of the Head: “Work too tense”
Now adding the positive.
You might be thinking that this EFT is going against much that you learned about personal growth and the need to be positive. Much of the original work with EFT and Tapping did get tremendous and surprising results by focusing only the “negative.”
The most positive it got was talking about fears, blocks, doubts, insecurities, and lack of confidence ABOUT the positive. So as positive as it would be was: “Even though I am unable to eat less or healthier desserts, I deeply and completely accept myself.” Or: “Even though I have great difficulty eating healthy portions I deeply & completely accept myself.”
Now however, more and more users and professionals also add tapping on all the positive things that you want to be doing now and have not been doing as much as you want. They do this AFTER tapping on the negatives first. Part of the experience has been that the energy fields, unconscious minds, nervous system, body & brain just don’t feel accepting or compatible with the positive. There are blocks to the positive and the positive isn’t firmly in place. Tapping on the positive seems to allow the positive to be adopted more quickly, easily and deeply.
Many current users of EFT, both professional and personal use, now do tapping on the positive reminders and positive reminder directions, AFTER tapping on the negative. They might do two series on the negative and then do two series on the positive.
NOTE: There is great value in using the Set-Up Phrases and Reversal Phase using the Positive.
Doesn’t this truly address the possible reversal that has been operating? If I have failed with healthy desserts in the past, it worth assuming there is some part of myself that feels that healthy desserts are “bad or forbidden.”
Try tapping on the positive on the issue of sugary desserts.
It would sound like this:
“Even though I ate a nice amount of healthy fruit for dessert, I deeply and completely accept myself.”
“Even though I only ate desserts three times this week, I deeply and completely accept myself:
“Even though I am eating way less sugar and feeling much better, I deeply and completely accept myself.”
Top of the head. “Eating desserts just some times.
Eyebrow: “ dessert is optional
Side of the eye: “ healthier and satisfied without dessert”
Under the eye: “sugar loses power over me.”
Under the nose: “easy to pass up”
Chin; “forget dessert…remember healthy”
Collarbone; “less sugar dessert”
Under the arm; “less and less dessert”
Top of the Head: “I’m in charge of desserts.”
Top of the head. “I eat less and less sugar.”
Eyebrow: “ less sugary desserts”
Side of the eye: “enjoy other desserts”
Under the eye: “enjoy skipping dessert.”
Under the nose: “sugar reduces it appeal”
Chin; “I deserve to be healthier…”
Collarbone; “control over sugar”
Under the arm; “eat healthier”
Top of the Head: “Way less sugar.”
Well, these are the basics of EFT/Tapping and using it with SuccessWorld and RightMind Programs. Practice these techniques. Experiment. Read and listen to various EFT scripts. Its a tool you should have and use often. Thanks for reading and listening to this program. Pass it on to others who would also benefit. I wish you a good day. Dr. David Illig